One Decision Away: The Book That Made Me Stop Waiting

There was a time I stayed in situations long after they stopped feeling right.

Not because they were good for me.
Not because they brought joy or meaning or growth.
But because I thought changing my mind meant I failed.

I used to wear consistency like a badge of honor.
Even if it cost me my energy, my alignment, or my joy.

Then I read The Midnight Library by Matt Haig.

And I realized…
Maybe changing your mind isn’t a failure.
Maybe it’s a portal.

📖 The Book That Shifted My Perspective

In The Midnight Library, the main character Nora gets to explore every version of her life she could have lived—every road not taken, every dream abandoned, every decision reversed. It’s not magical realism for entertainment’s sake. It’s a mirror.

A reminder that every single choice is a thread in the web of who you are becoming.

This book cracked something open in me.

I’d been holding onto old versions of myself out of guilt.
Guilt for changing careers.
Guilt for shifting spiritual beliefs.
Guilt for not wanting the same things I once did.

But The Midnight Library gave me permission to ask:

What if I don’t need to justify the change?
What if I get to choose again—simply because I’ve grown?

🧠 The Psychology of Rewriting Your Life

Psychologists call this narrative identity—the internal story you tell yourself about who you are and what your life means.
And when you consciously re-author that narrative, it doesn’t mean you’re lost.
It means you’re healing.

✨ Research from narrative psychology shows:

• People who regularly re-evaluate and rewrite their inner stories report higher emotional resilience, self-esteem, and goal alignment

• They’re better equipped to navigate change without spiraling into shame

• They become the authors of their lives, not just the characters

That’s what happened to me.

I stopped waiting for permission.
I stopped needing to be sure.
I just started asking:
What version of me feels most true right now?

💫 Why This Book Matters for You

If you’ve ever:

• Stayed in a job, friendship, or identity too long

• Felt like you couldn’t pivot because people expect “consistency”

• Judged yourself for wanting something different

Then this book might be your permission slip too.

You don’t need to collapse before you pivot.
You don’t need a rock bottom to change directions.
You just need truth.

📌 Ready to Realign?

• ✍️ Start with the [LTS Journal: Know] – the journal that helped me sort through the noise and hear my truth again.

• 🚀 Explore the [Quantum Leap Course] – designed to help you take the first brave step toward the life that actually fits you.

• 🎧 Listen to the podcast episode → You Are Allowed to Change Your Mind – a 10-minute love letter to every woman rewriting her life in real time.

📝 Journal Prompt:

What belief, identity, or dream have I outgrown—but keep holding onto out of guilt, fear, or habit?

🧘♀️ Mantra:

“I don’t need permission to change. I only need truth.”

💬 Let’s Talk About It…

If The Midnight Library or this blog unlocked something for you, come say hi on Instagram → [@lovethyselfies]
Tell me:
What version of your life are you choosing now?

Remember:
You’re not inconsistent.
You’re becoming.
And sometimes the bravest thing you’ll ever do… is choose again.

With love and your next chapter waiting,
xo,
Melissa