🌿 Spiral Healing & Why It’s Okay to Come Back to Old Wounds

You’re not back at square one—you’re rising from a deeper layer.

We talk a lot about becoming…
But what we don’t talk about enough?

How becoming can feel like returning.
To the same place.
To the same pain.
To the same pattern you thought you had already outgrown.

And when that happens, the shame voice tends to speak up first:

“Haven’t you healed this already?”
“Why are you still stuck here?”
“What’s wrong with you?”

But here’s the truth I wish more people whispered:
Healing isn’t linear.
It’s not a checklist.
It’s not a finish line you cross and never look back.

Real growth?
It’s a spiral.

🌀 The Spiral is Sacred

You’ll come back to the same lesson more than once.
But every time, you’re not the same.

You bring:

• New perspective
  
  

• Deeper softness
  
  

• More integration
  
  

• And a version of you that’s equipped with wisdom you didn’t have last time
  
  

That’s not regression.
That’s evolution.

💔 My Story: The Food Spiral That Humbled Me

There was a season where I thought I had “figured it out.”

I drank smoothies for months.
The weight fell off.
I felt in control.

But when I reintroduced solid food, everything collapsed.
My body panicked.
The weight returned fast.

So I tried intuitive eating.
But I gained even more weight—not because I was out of control…
But because I didn’t understand what my body actually needed.
I wasn’t eating enough protein.
I wasn’t supporting my energy.
I was following rules instead of listening to myself.

And for a while, I felt so much shame.

“How am I back here again?”
“Didn’t I already learn this?”

But eventually, I realized something deeper:
I wasn’t failing.
I was returning to the wound… with more curiosity, more compassion, and better tools.

🐚 The Spiral Feels Like a Snail Shell

The best metaphor I’ve found?

It feels like the inside of a snail shell.
Coiled. Confusing. Curved in on itself.
You think you’ve left something behind, only to find yourself brushing against it again.

But here’s the secret:
Every curve has a purpose.
You’re not in a loop.
You’re in formation.

You’re adding depth.
You’re layering insight.
You’re building a self that can hold more of you.

🧠 The Psychology of Spiral Healing

Trauma-informed therapy calls this spiral processing.

It’s the idea that the body and brain don’t heal in one big swoop.
They heal in layers.

You don’t revisit old pain because you’re broken.
You revisit it because you finally have the safety and capacity to integrate it more fully.

This is not failure.
It’s evidence of your readiness.

🌱 How to Know You’re Healing in a Spiral

• You’re revisiting an old wound—but reacting with more gentleness, not panic
  
  

• You notice the same thought pattern—but ask different questions this time
  
  

• You feel “stuck”—but choose support instead of shame
  
  

• You’re repeating something—but not abandoning yourself in the process
  
  

That’s not starting over.
That’s starting deeper.

📝 Try This

Ask yourself:

Where have I circled back recently—and what new truth can I see now that I couldn’t before?

Write it down.
Hold it with softness.
Celebrate the return.

Because every spiral is a signal of your growth.

📓 Want a Space to Hold the Spiral?

The LTS Journal: Know was created for this exact kind of moment—
Where you need a mirror for your patterns
A home for your truth
And a witness for the beautiful, nonlinear story you’re living

🌱 Ready to move from spiraling in fear to spiraling with intention?
The Quantum Leap Course will walk you through your rise—with structure, softness, and soul.

🎧 And if your inner critic has been loud lately, listen to Episode 19: The Becoming Isn’t Always Linear.
It might just rewire how you see your entire journey.

💬 Talk to Me…

Have you ever come back to a place you swore you’d already healed?

What did you find there the second time around?

DM me at @lovethyselfies or drop your story in the comments.

Let’s normalize spiral growth.
Let’s honor every loop.
Let’s stop measuring progress by straight lines.

You’re not behind.
You’re becoming.

With you always,
xo,
Melissa